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September 20, 2007

Real Advice: I feel suicidal

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I don’t know where to turn anymore. My family relationship is getting worse and worse, and when I try to open up to my friends, they just blow me off because I have been unrealistically known as the easy going, happy girl.

I love my jesus, but this is getting my focus off of him, making fall deeper and deeper. I was struggling with suicidal thoughts in 7th grade, and they are coming back again…Is there anything I can do to help me deal or something? I’m scared. Katherine (more…)

Filed under: suicide, faith, family, real advice

Posted by T. Suzanne Eller @ 8:19 am | 3 Comments

August 29, 2007

Real Story: Where is Nichole now?

Nichole and her beautiful family

Real Teens, Real Stories, Real Life was my first book, published in 2002. I met so many teens as I wrote this book. Many of their stories were powerful. One of those most amazing and difficult story was written by a teen named Nichole.

In her story, on page 69, titled “A Place to Call Home”, she shared what it was like to be raised in a home where dad raised marijuana, where they were kicked out of their home, or ran from police.

One day her parents took all of their belongings to a storage shelter. They left behind all of their furniture, but they also left something else very important behind at that storage building:

Eleven-year-old Nichole. (more…)

Filed under: real story, abuse, real interviews, family

Posted by T. Suzanne Eller @ 5:40 am | 4 Comments

August 14, 2007

Real Devo: Head On!

Talk to the Hand! 

Head-On

by Lydia Rule, RTF Staff Writer

Here is the understatement of the century: people do not get along. In fact, confrontations between people can get downright nasty. (more…)

Filed under: friendship, family, real devos, real issues, lydia rule, real advice

Posted by T. Suzanne Eller @ 12:54 pm | 1 Comment

July 31, 2007

Real Advice: It’s really hard to change

Hi, my name is Angel. I am 16 years old. I have read almost your whole book called Real Teens, Real Stories, Real Life. Its a really good book. I just sat down on day feeling alone, depressed and I came across your book. I just sat there reading this book all day. Well anyway I have a problem with drinking, smoking pot, I lie, cheat and steal from the people I love. Its hard for me to tell the truth its mostly because I’m scared to tell the truth.

I grew up in a home with alcohol, drugs and abuse. I wasn’t taught about God and the things he can do. When I was about 5 my father was taken from me and my brother, it was his alcohol and drugs that caused him to take his life. 

As I grew up I blamed him for everything. I blamed him for my alcohol abuse my drug use. I was about 12 when I had my first drink. It scares me sometimes, I drink until I come to a complete blackout. I hurt people and I don’t remember. It hurts me to see my mother cry. She is trying really hard to become a Christian.

I try to stop everything that I am doing, but I can’t do it on my own.  Please write back.

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Filed under: faith, family, real advice

Posted by T. Suzanne Eller @ 4:32 pm | 2 Comments

July 8, 2007

Real Advice: My dad is on drugs

My dad is bad on drugs and I love him so much but I don’t know what to do, I pray and pray for him but it seems like he keeps getting worse I don’t want to give up on him because God wouldn’t want me to but it seems like there’s nothing I can do? - Shawntaine (more…)

Filed under: family, real links, real advice

Posted by T. Suzanne Eller @ 10:00 am | 1 Comment

July 6, 2007

Real Advice: Should I tell mom I had sex?

mom and daughterI am going on 16, and made a regrettable choice to give myself to my boyfriend two years ago. Although this is something I cannot take back, I have talked with my youth pastor about regaining my spiritual purity through Jesus. But I’ve never told my parents about this. I know that I never got any STD’s and I didn’t get pregnant, but it’s really hurtful to me having to lie to my mother nearly everyday.

We talk about sex openly and I have no difficulty lying about it. I told her recently that I was going to wait until marriage. In my heart, I feel that I will be waiting for marriage. But I know that if I tell her that our relationship will never be the same. I don’t think she could ever forgive me. Am I a terrible person to keep deceiving her, even though it’s better for both of us? - Alie (more…)

Filed under: family, sex, real advice

Posted by T. Suzanne Eller @ 7:01 am | 1 Comment

June 17, 2007

Real Advice: Everything Is Going Wrong

I just turned 15.

Everything thing seems to be going wrong. I thought that as I got older life would be cooler. My mom recently lost her job and then got a new one. Instead of working for like four hours, she works for ten. I know that every parent probably works like this but I’m so used to her having a part-time job. Now it feels like I have to be responsible for the safety of my little sisters and the house. (more…)

Filed under: family, real advice

Posted by T. Suzanne Eller @ 11:55 am | 1 Comment

August 17, 2006

Real Advice: My Cousin is Mad at Me

I need advice badly.

While I was on vacation my cousin’s birthday came. So I was planning to call him. But the day of his birthday I was really sick. I never even left my hotel room. And now he’s mad at me, and I don’t know what to do. I told him I was sorry but he’s still mad at me. And all I’m thinking about is how can I be so stupid and forget to call him.

Please give me advice ASAP. Thanks

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Filed under: family, real advice

Posted by T. Suzanne Eller @ 11:02 am | Comments
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T. Suzanne Eller, author and International speaker, veteran youthworker, parenting and youth culture columnist.

Real Teen Faith creates resources (blogs, books, speaking, articles) to help teens strengthen their relationship with God, as well as resources for youthworkers, parents, and those who love teens.

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