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August 17, 2007

 

I met this really nice guy at a youth camp and he asked me out. I told him no at first because I’m now allowed to date, but then I really thought about it!

So the next day I told him that I would secretly date him and he’s fine with it! We really like each other and he’s so sweet and perfect for me!

I’m not allowed to date for 3 more years and Im 14. I love him and I know that he loves me and I don’t want my parents to find out that I’m dating him.

But I want to ask them if I can again so if they say yes I can! How can I ask them about dating. If they say no it is going to be even harder to keep my relationship secret! How can I ask them and have a relationship at the same time? I know that whatever they say Im not going to break up with him cause I love him! Got any answers to my questions? Sincerely, Tyrha (more…)

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July 23, 2007

 

Love at first sight is easy to understand; it’s when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle.” Amy Bloom

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June 27, 2007

I love my boyfriend, but he hits me and says cruel things when he is angry. Last night we were walking in a dark parking lot and he pushed me and called me a (derogatory term) just because I didn’t agree with something he said. He has his good moments and that’s when I realize how much I love him. I’m torn. Carey W., Age 16

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June 21, 2007

I’m 19 years old and lately I’ve been praying that God would send me my soul mate and that I would know who that special person was when the time is right. I’ve always wanted to be a wife and a mother more than anything else in world. I’ve always felt that that was meant to be. I haven’t really dated much. I’ve had a few close guy friends, but not boyfriends.

I’m just worried that I will never find the right person.

Amber (more…)

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June 14, 2007

~Real Question~

Recently I started talking to a guy who’s in my church choir. We’ve been talking for some time and I told him that I had feelings for him. He said he had feelings for me too and also he said that he has never been in a relationship before. He wants a relationship where he can be with someone wholeheartedly, but until it is the right time we don’t communicate as much.

I agree with him and respect him for that. But then I got in touch with a guy I knew from way back. We went out for his birthday recently and I had a great time with him. I stopped liking him before because he was a player. He used to say that he does the “on the side” thing. I don’t know if he has changed from then and I like him what should I do?

Catherine (more…)

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December 10, 2006

~Real Question~

Lately, I`ve been feeling lonely, most of my friends have boyfriends. It seems they can have any guy by the drop of a hat. There is this guy I really like. But I`m not the best girl that can talk to guys I like. The worst thing is all my friends come to me for advice about guys. BUT I don`t know anything about guys and relationships, I`ve never had a boyfriend before. I`m kind of scared….What should I do? (more…)

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September 4, 2006

Hi. Please help me. I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend wants to marry me. He has always been very respectful and has never crossed the line with me. He knows I wont have any sex before marriage, because I want to keep myself pure and experience it the way is intended.

Recently the subject of having sex before marriage came up, something he previously did before we knew each other. I feel terribly bad. I find the pain of such information unbearable. I know if I want to continue with him, I have to forgive him, but I feel like I am going to miss out on something very special. What can I do? (more…)

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July 24, 2006

~Real Question~

I need your advice and I don’t care if you tell the whole wide world. I’ve known this boy since the 5th grade and I liked him, and in the 9th grade my bestfriend told me he had a baby with someone else. I didn’t know what to really feel, I guess confused.

I’ve really tried to get over him because if I know if I like him anymore it would just hurt me more. Is that a good thing? I can try to be his friend.

Do you think I will ever get over him?

Do you think I should tell him how I feel for him either now or about the past?

~Real Answer~

Let’s take your questions one at a time. Okay?

“I don’t know what to feel.”

I can’t tell you how to feel, but I can tell you that feelings are the worst and least reliable way to figure out what to do. Feelings go up and down. Feelings change. Feelings don’t take into account your hopes and dreams and plans for life.

First, you are really young and I don’t mean that to disrespect you. Being young is cool, but it’s not the best time to make relationship plans (especially based on feelings).

If this guy had a baby at such a young age, his life is pretty tangled up and it involves the lives of others. Is this something you would want to take on? Probably not.

Being his friend isn’t a great idea because you’re still sorting through feelings, so maybe caring for him as a friend means that you’re not going to tangle up the mess any further.

I’ve really tried to get over him because if I know if I like him anymore it would just hurt me more. Is that a good thing?

Time will help you get over him. It’s awesome that you know that it’s not a great thing to be involved with him. I’m amazed at how many girls choose a guy that will only hurt them — whether it’s the way he treats her or the choices he makes — so it’s cool that you want more than that.

Do you think I will ever get over him?

Yes. 100% absolutely sure. : ) While you’re waiting for that to happen, make wise choices that take into consideration who you are, what you want in life, and whose you are (God’s). You deserve someone who will love God and you when the time is right. You deserve to be able to be a teen, rather than a grown-up with grown-up responsibilities and problems (like someone else’s baby). You also need to respect yourself enough that you will bring good things to a relationship when you are older.

Thanks for being so honest and open,

RT Faith

Do you think I should tell him how I feel for him either now or about the past?

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