RTF,

could you help me with what purity means in a relationship.

thanks.

This is a tricky one, and here’s why: A lot of people want to know
“how far can I go?”… but that’s sort of like asking, “How close can
I stand to a cliff without falling off?”

I can tell you from experience to be very, very careful. Draw your
lines beforehand. It would be legalistic of me to set standards for
you, but I will say that most people can hold hands and be fine. Be
careful with french kissing, and placing your hands on someone’s body,
etc. I would encourage you not even to get that close to the cliff…
that’s just me.

I never kissed anyone except the guy I ended up marrying three years
ago… and to be honest, I don’t regret that. I realize some people
would say that’s stringent, but I know from experience that french
kissing leads places very quickly… and I’m also glad I don’t have
memories of tons of other guys’ kisses going through my head.

I hope this helps… I just want to say that you’re awesome to be
saving your body… try to save your heart, too, because God has
someone incredible for you and he will be totally worth the wait!

I’d love to talk more with you any time…

BJ

Hi, i just wanted to thank you for taking the time in answering my email. It really means a lot to me.

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