I’d have to say that I have no moral qualms with premarital cosexual interdigitation. In fact, I actually enjoy it. As for the question you alluded at, “how far is too far?” I don’t think there’s an easy answer.

The one rule that I’ve heard that I wish I would have listened to, that and really like is: “Pretend that your parents are sitting right next to you in the room. Do whatever you feel is comfortable, knowing they’re watching.” If you follow that guideline, odds are, you will live a life that is not full of regrets.

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LOL. I probably would have been blushing violently and no doubt stuttering had I been asked that question =D

Hm. I think kissing/hugging/hand-holding before marriage is fine and dandy, although I wouldn’t want to go too far beyond that. (Okay, not far at all.) It’s like saying, “Hey, let me see how close I can get to the edge of this cliff without falling off!” It may be thrilling at the time, but the aftermath would be nothing but pain.

Even reading this title I was thinking, “Interdigitation what?” I’m glad to get that cleared up.

It seems to me that as long as a person keeps in mind that he or she is striving to live wholeheartedly for God, then the physical boundaries aren’t terribly hard to set. Thinking, “How far can I go the edge?” and “How much can I do without getting caught?” is really the wrong mindset and won’t help you solve anything.

I made a personal promise three years ago to save my first kiss until my wedding day (I’ve gotten a lot of interesting remarks about that…), but from that standpoint I think physical boundaries are personal decisions. There isn’t really one way for everyone. So, while some people are totally okay with kissing before marriage, others aren’t, because they think it is a special, almost sacred, thing that should be waited for.

i believe that teens should wait to be married to have sex….i have a promise ring…i am a strong christian..i belive in God…and i am waiting for my husband for my first kiss and for my 1st time having sex

No doubt, Abbie! I was totally blushing when he asked me!

I love the way you answered this, Jennifer. You’re right — it’s different for each person as to what they’re comfortable with. Respecting each other is really important. Thanks for commenting!

Good for you on being willing to wait on sex, Kaitlyn. It’s a decision Ethan and I made, and we don’t regret it.

Well, in my opinion, sex is for marriage and marriage only. When it comes to boundaries, I agree that it’s different for every person. I think the smartest thing Christians can can do is never put themselves in a compromising situation. You should always ask yourself…”Could this lead to something else?” or “Is there anyway this could go too far?” For example, you’d never want to be left alone in a house or a car for a significant amount of time with someone of the opposite sex that you were dating. I think the temptation is way too high. Also, I think you should never put too much confidence or trust in your flesh. I think the moment you start to say “I’m strong enough to do this…” or “I would never fall” you have to step back and realize that we are all humans with desires and ANY of us can mess up, no matter how “good” of a Christian we think we are. God calls us to be WISE and in being wise we have to be able to admit that we are human and need accountability and boundaries.

I am waiting to have sex until marriage, I think that that is something that God made for marriage not beforehand. I think that it is worth waiting for.

Good for you, Erin! It’s definitely worth waiting for and your future husband is really going to appreciate your commitment.

Ashlin, you’re right about boundaries. Temptation can sneak in at any time, usually when you least expect it. Wisdom is always needed.

I just told my girlfriend that I enjoy having “premarital cosexual interdigitation”. Her reply: “What?!” Thanks for the article It’s great to know that we all have brothers and sisters out there!