by RTF Assistant Editor Halee Matthews

“I really like this guy and I think he likes me. The problem is, he’s dating my friend. What do I do?” ~ Shayla

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Hey Shayla,

I’m sorry you’re struggling with such a complicated crush. I know how painful they can be. Tempting as it may be to express your feelings, you should do nothing. I know that’s freakishly hard, but this guy is dating your friend. So if you want to respect her and not lose her friendship, you shouldn’t do or say anything.

Here’s something else to consider: If he really does like you, why is he still dating your friend? He either doesn’t like you or he’s using her.

If the guy continues to date your friend but tries to express feelings for you, tell her. Wouldn’t you want someone to tell you if your boyfriend was hitting on another girl? You friend will be grateful, and your friendship might be stronger because of it.

I know the whole situation is tough. It’s painful to watch someone you like date someone else. But the best thing you can do right now is respect your friend’s relationship and stay away from her guy.

Halee

P.S. If you’ve got a question, we’d love to hear from you!