I’ve been praying about this alot, and I haven’t found any help on it…There is the guy who is in my grade (I’m in high school as a junior) and a couple weeks before school started, he sent me a text message saying he likes me, after the couple weeks we have talked to eachother, and now school has started, and he has been avoiding my messages, and hasn’t called me back when he’s said he would. He’s good buddies with my friend, and he tells him he all of a sudden doesn’t have feelings for me now. Now, I can’t stop thinking about him, and once in a while he will still talk about me to my friend, what should I do? I’m so confused! Anna

 

 

Hey Anna,

He changed his mind, and honestly I’m so glad that he changed it before you invested your heart in the relationship. I meet a lot of amazing girls who are into a guy, and even after they’ve hurt them they still are open to rekindling the relationship.

They deserve more.

I’m not against dating or liking someone, and it’s not my opinion that matters anyway. But scripturally I look at how love is defined, and it starts out with a lot of cool stuff: consideration, thoughtfulness, kindness, looking out for each other’s best interest, self-control, selflessness.

If a guy said he liked you, then changed his mind and doesn’t have the guts to tell you himself, he’s still a work in progress. He’s not got the relationship thing down, and he’s not kind. He’s not looking out for your best interest. He’s not selfless. It may be that he’s embarrassed, or maybe he’s a river of shallowness. Who knows?

But what I do know is that you should expect more from anyone that you invest your heart in. Okay? Move on, Anna. Tell your heart she deserves better, and let God be the need-meeter in your life while your heart is wrapped around the One who loves you best.

Suzie