June 21, 2007
I’m 19 years old and lately I’ve been praying that God would send me my soul mate and that I would know who that special person was when the time is right. I’ve always wanted to be a wife and a mother more than anything else in world. I’ve always felt that that was meant to be. I haven’t really dated much. I’ve had a few close guy friends, but not boyfriends.
I’m just worried that I will never find the right person.
Amber
~RTF~
Hi Amber,
It’s cool that you understand that being a mom and loving someone for a lifetime is a blessing, because it is. It’s often downplayed in our culture, as if having a close-knit strong family isn’t important. 
But at 19, it may be a little while before that happens. The last thing you want to do is to form a relationship with someone just to have a family. You want the right person and the right timing.
You use a powerful word: soulmate. What is that exactly? It’s someone who compliments you — who is a good fit. Who is a person of integrity. Who doesn’t demand anything from you that would harm you or your future, but wants the best for you. Who loves God, really really loves God, and doesn’t just hang out on a pew.
While you are waiting for the right person it is a good time to work on yourself. Because somewhere out there a man is praying and asking God for the right person–his soulmate. Look at your life and see what you will one day bring to a relationship. Are you a person of integrity? Do you want the best for others? Do you really, really love God and trust him to show you the way as you wait?
In some ways, nineteen is old. You are out of high school, focused on the next season of your life, putting child-like things behind you. And yet it is young. You are still learning. You are still growing. You still have a thousand choices to make about important things.
So, for now, trust that God has someone for you. Anticipate that one day–with the right person–that you’ll have what you desire. Go outside of your comfort zone and make friends with both guys and girls. Have fun while you wait.
And then the pressure is off, and you’ll look up one day and into the eyes–maybe of a friend–and realize that your soulmate has entered your life and your heart.
Suzie
Jade/Debbie says:
You really think there’s a “soulmate” for everyone?
your friend,
Jade/Debbie
Yvonne says:
I believe that God has someone special in mind for you/ a “soulmate” if you will.
I also think that Satan has someone for you (a rather disturbing thought!) LOL Choosing “Mr. or Mrs. Right” is something that you have to pray about. Save your heart for the day you get married. Until you find the right one, spend time developing character traits in your life that will prepare you to be someone else’s soulmate.
You need to both agree on God and how you will teach your children about God. 
Oh yeah, and make sure the guy you date is a solid Christian before you date him. Finances and religious differences are two really big marriage busting issues.
Jade/Debbie says:
Sounds like you’re either already married, Yvonne, or a big sister. LOL.
your friend,
Jade/Debbie