November 8, 2006
~Real Question~
I know sex is wrong, but I can’t stand it everytime when my friends tell me how good and fun when they have sex with their bf and say it is very common that people have sex b4 marriage. They tell me that sex is not wrong when you do it with your loved one even b4 you are married. Is it true?
~Real Advice~
Sex is not wrong. Does that surprise you? It’s a gift from God designed for one man and one woman for a lifetime. It’s meant to be a deep spiritual, physical, and emotional connection.
But the gift of sex is abused. It’s not meant to be casual, physical-only, or a hit-and-run experience. Let me say it again: one man/one woman/lifetime commitment.
First Corinthians 6:16 (The Message) reminds us that sex is intended to be a much greater gift that what culture says it is: There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, ‘The two become one’.
The reality is that in time many of your friends will come back and tell you that things didn’t work out, that “good and fun” feeling wasn’t enough. Some will have babies way before they are ready to be a committed, loving, mature parent to a child. Others will contract STI’s. Some will feel empty when they see the guy who was so into them a few weeks ago walking down the hallway with another girl.
The Bible tells us that there is value in waiting:
Romans 8:24-25 (The Message) That is why waiting does not diminish us, any more than waiting diminishes a pregnant mother. We are enlarged in the waiting. We, of course, don’t see what is enlarging us. But the longer we wait, the larger we become, and the more joyful our expectancy.
I pray that you will stop and reassess what you desire in love, and make decisions that will bring you joy and security—for you are God’s girl and he loves you deeply. Choose what will last, rather than what you feel at the moment.
